First ride in Roxy’s saddle with Jac; Coincidence or God-incidence

I really considered NOT sharing this. It is so strange that it seems fake, like a set up or something but it wasn’t. I decided that it is silly to skip telling the truth just because it so strange that people may not believe. You decide.

Yesterday I decided to haul Jac to ride at a neighbors place. I am taking Jac to the All American Quarter Horse Congress next week for a big debut and didn’t want the Congress to be his first trip away. I got there and chatted awhile. The arena owner asked me if I wanted the radio shut off, or the station changed or anything and I said no.

I decided that because of the Congress I was also going to change saddles. I wanted to ride him in something a little 2006 Tulsa saddlemore ‘fitting’. As I saddled him up I thought about how poignant the moment was, Jac wearing the saddle that his mom had won.

Jesse walked in, made no comment as I swung my leg over Jacs back. And then it happened.

Jesse said, “Do you hear that?”

Goosebumps were already racing up my arms. The hair on my neck standing up. ‘Yes.’

“No one’s going to believe this.” He said.

“Take a picture and I will do a blog,” I said.

“Picture? No, video-let them hear it.” Jesse said.

“OK, but video the saddle fender first, and quick.”

Watch the video-make sure your volume is turned up:


  1. Rebecca James on October 13, 2013 at 9:59 pm

    Wow – had tears in my eyes just as with the many times I’ve watched the video of you and Roxy. That song was released not long after my husband died of cancer at 37 and it reminds me so much of him. Watching the video of you and Roxy and hearing your story about your father was so inspiring. I have no doubt that Roxy was there with you and Jac. Thank you for being willing to share and touch so many with such a personal moment in your life … yet again. “Coincidence is God’s way of remaining anonymous.” – Albert Einstein

  2. David Hughes on October 10, 2013 at 12:51 am

    I am on my tablet and I couldn’t get the video to play. It didn’t need to play. I know what song came on Stacy. I don’t see how you kept riding. I’m blinded by tears just knowing that happened.

  3. Emalee on October 9, 2013 at 11:59 pm

    seriously, gave me goosebumps! thats so awesome, i hope jac can be just as great as him mom!

  4. charlene on October 8, 2013 at 6:29 am

    Its funny, because when I read your blog, I was already getting goose bumps and I knew what you where going to say. Thats very special, someone was giving you the Ok.

  5. Cheri Copeland on October 7, 2013 at 11:28 pm

    Coincidence is God’s way of remaining anonymous.

  6. Laurene on October 7, 2013 at 10:55 pm

    Gave me goose bumps. Can’t imagine what it did to you.

  7. Arlene on October 7, 2013 at 9:46 pm

    That must have been difficult for you but I believe it was a blessing. I don’t believe in coincidence. You certainly deserve some positive. My best wishes to the two of you going as far as you and his mamma did.

  8. Russ Hosier on October 7, 2013 at 8:00 pm

    Just amazing and I’m sure not a coincidence. Isn’t God wonderful!! Thanks so much for sharing this very special moment.

  9. Denise on October 7, 2013 at 6:34 pm

    Amazing! A sign that its all meant to be from Roxy and god and your dad!

  10. Maureen Blafas on October 7, 2013 at 5:20 pm

    I am so glad you shared this video, even though it made me cry. I believe it was God’s way of telling you that everything would be alright and that Roxy was at peace in heavenly pastures. Little Jac has a big void to fill but I know that you will love him regardless of the outcome.

  11. Susan Dickerson on October 7, 2013 at 1:06 pm

    There are no coincidences! Awesome!

  12. Debbie Cormier on October 7, 2013 at 12:52 pm

    OK – I really needed the tissues for this one. RIP Roxy

  13. Ida Marie Panella Carlough on October 7, 2013 at 12:36 pm

    Definitely a nod from God!

  14. Scharry on October 7, 2013 at 12:10 pm

    God is sooo Good! As I watched and listened, to me it was as if God was saying, “This is my gift to you for the great you did with his Momma”. What a message of encouragement. Love you Stacy and thank you for taking us on this journey with you.

  15. Carol Chase on October 7, 2013 at 11:02 am

    OH ~ MY ~ GOSH!!!!!!! What a BEAUTIFUL message from ROXY!!!!! I can hardly type this as I’m in tears so thick I can hardly see the monitor. I have goosebumps on my arms AND legs; I just told my husband about this, and he’s got tears in his eyes as well. He and I have watched the video of you and ROXY probably a million times, and we both cry every single time. We wish you all the joy, love, and success with JAC that you shared with ROXY; God bless you, Stacy, and thank you for letting us share your ride and journey. xoxo

  16. sue on October 7, 2013 at 10:55 am

    OMG i dont think that was a coincidence at all. as soon as i heard the song playing in the background chills went right though me and tears welled in my eyes. Even though i’ve seen the video many times, just the thought of that 2006 ride sends shivers through me. Thankyou for sharing.

  17. Wendy Lott on October 7, 2013 at 10:26 am

    That is amazing!!! What a wonderful thing to happen when you put that saddle on his back and start to ride him that day!! Good luck at the conference!! AMAZING!!

  18. rcatheron on October 7, 2013 at 9:00 am

    No coincidence, and I’m sure she was watching and listening, and smiling. God knows what He’s doing 🙂
    Btw, looks like you’ve got a real good boy there.

  19. Annie Bauer on October 7, 2013 at 8:12 am

    Stacy, I congratulate you for NOT holding back on this story. It’s not strange at all. There aren’t coincidences, particularly when there are believers present. God is at work everywhere, all the time. Thank you for being one of those rare human beings who isn’t afraid to share her heart, be totally transparent and real, and really and truly embrace life with all its tragedies, triumphs, heartbreak, and joy. The sign of a very real person. It’s not about whether or not your stories will be accepted and understood by many, it’s about the (possibly) few who accept and understand your genuine nature. Annie

  20. SallyGilbert on October 7, 2013 at 7:10 am

    one thing, just too short of a clip! Thanks for sharing, just so awesome! love to see him slide like his momma!

  21. william krauss on October 7, 2013 at 3:24 am

    Hi Stacy, I watch your video now and then. I know you and Roxy made that ride shortly after you lost your Dad. I get a lump in my throat every time I see you speed up in time with the music and finish triumphantly. God Bless you both. ~ Bill K

  22. Greg Powell on October 7, 2013 at 3:15 am

    That is amazing.
    My father also passed in 2006 of motor neurone disease and I haven’t really got over it
    He was a man of faith but it was a cruel death
    It has shaken my faith a lot
    These little god incidences help
    It was great to meet you in 2011
    You were judging the way of the horse at Equitana and presented me with the buckle
    God bless
    Greg Powell

  23. Jen on October 7, 2013 at 12:38 am

    You will always know when you are on the right path because there will be confirmations everywhere that will come without having to look for them. Big moment in so many ways.

  24. Barley and I on October 7, 2013 at 12:19 am

    No coincidence…Confirmation! 😉 Loving it ♡♥♡

  25. Cindy on October 7, 2013 at 12:12 am

    God Incident for certain! How wonderful!! Made me cry!!! You are a very special young lady and God is using you in mighty ways to teach people how to connect with their horses. Thank you for sharing!

  26. Kristen Mandich on October 6, 2013 at 11:52 pm

    Stacy, that was truly a blessing and a sign. I didn’t loose a horse but I lost my brother 81/2 yrs ago and made him a promise to try things that i always wanted to try and things that scared me. horses didn’t scare me the height did and i have ALWAYS wanted to ride. Have disabilities and had a boss at the time that was demeaning because of them so I came to my trainer with all the “I can’ts” in place. she promptly put them to the side, got me tacked up and on the horse and riding with some simple instruction. as I was riding I was thinking about my promise and was I doing the right thing and should I continue because i felt like i belonged there and his FAVORITE song came on the radio. when I bought my first horse (less than a year after starting to ride – will have owned him 2 yrs dec 9th) I was having second thoughts ans saw not 1 rainbow but 2 sets of double rainbows. I was sold. I know the bittersweatness of it but nothing compares. Keep us updated, please!

  27. Kimisue Hipp on October 6, 2013 at 11:45 pm

    I had to watch it 2x then it hit me……Oh girl that is awesome. Could not be more fitting.
    God bless you both and good luck at Congress. Many prayers to you.

  28. Dawn B. on October 6, 2013 at 11:35 pm

    Thank you Stacy… for finding the courage to show us humility and honesty. You are a phenomenal woman.

  29. Erica T on October 6, 2013 at 11:12 pm

    Gave me goosebumps! God works in mysterious ways!

  30. Wendy Russ on October 6, 2013 at 11:12 pm

    God has a way of turning on the music in your broken heart. Let the healing begin and flourish as you continue to live like you were dyin for the the sake of the horse, your family, your fellow horseman and especially for YOU!

  31. Sarah on October 6, 2013 at 10:14 pm

    Hi Stacy,
    What is your competition schedule at Congress? Would love the chance to see you ride!

    • Stacy on October 6, 2013 at 11:28 pm

      Not competing, I will introduce Jac to everyone and talk a bit at the beginning of the freestyle on Sat. I will be hanging out around Congress if you want to just visit though!

  32. Mary Moore on October 6, 2013 at 10:12 pm

    Awesomeness!! Truly beautiful… Bless you for sharing this very special moment with us. Please continue no matter how bizarre.

  33. Terry Casson on October 6, 2013 at 9:49 pm

    Have loved that song “Live Like You Were Dying” ever since the seeing your ride on Roxy – it was my official intro to the two of you. Don’t believe it was simply coincidence, but KARMA. What a special moment for you both. Jac never knew his dam, but like you I can see a little of both his sire and Roxy. He has such a handsome face. It gave me goosebumps to watch this video. Thank you, Stacy, for sharing it.

  34. Jeri Kunkel on October 6, 2013 at 9:40 pm

    Definitely not coincidence. There’s no coincidence with God! 🙂

  35. Lisa Talley on October 6, 2013 at 9:23 pm

    I just lost my dad last month and this Wednesday would of been his 85th birthday. Thank you for a beautiful tribute (the video of Roxy and you) and the reminder that God is always there.

  36. Dianna on October 6, 2013 at 9:00 pm

    Wow…God is great!!

  37. Roma Miller on October 6, 2013 at 8:40 pm

    Stacey, this brought tears to my eyes and melted my heart. We have a awesome God. So happy you chose to share. I look forward to seeing you show next year. Good luck to you and Jac

  38. Cynthia Dorr on October 6, 2013 at 8:28 pm

    The number one color of Champions is a red sorrel or chestnut. Sometimes we go through incredible heartache, and if we learn the lesson, we are rewarded with His many Blessings. God Bless you Stacey, you have experienced some hardships, now you will receive your blessings.

  39. Tammy on October 6, 2013 at 8:16 pm

    roxy was with you then and there and Happy that you are riding her son, that was her way of telling you that.

  40. Kirsten on October 6, 2013 at 8:08 pm


  41. Deborah A Adams on October 6, 2013 at 7:23 pm

    Absolutely no coincidence there…confirmation.

  42. Melissa on October 6, 2013 at 6:43 pm

    WOW! That’s no coincidence!! All the best at the Congress Stacy!!

  43. Meg on October 6, 2013 at 6:12 pm

    He looks like a “Red Roxy”. Both of you will take us on new adventures. I look forward to the journey! Ride on!

  44. Jennifer J on October 6, 2013 at 6:09 pm

    God speaks to us in ways that we can understand and for many of us it involves our horse and song. What a special moment you had!

  45. Linda Boles on October 6, 2013 at 5:12 pm

    Stacey, Thank you for being so true to yourself. The first time I watched the video of you and Roxy I cried. It was so beautiful and inspiring. I watched it over and over again and it had the same affect on me. I shared your video with my equestrian teacher and she cried when she saw it. I am not sure that you understand what a profound affect you have had on the equestrian world. You continue to give us stories and experiences that help us to understand horses in a way that we never knew before. Please never change what you are doing. We need you. You are taking us to other levels that we could not have achieved before. Thank you so much for being you!

  46. cindy weber on October 6, 2013 at 5:06 pm

    I love watching that performance over and over.

  47. Ellyse Shafer on October 6, 2013 at 5:05 pm

    How crazy! That’s so amazing!!
    P.S. Was that at Brezzy Knoll??

    • Stacy on October 6, 2013 at 11:30 pm

      Lol, yes! They aren’t very far and it seemed like a good place to haul to. Funny you could tell….you must be from around here!!!

      • Ellyse Shafer on October 7, 2013 at 9:49 pm

        Yep! Just a short haul for us as well! Mom used to keep her old stud there. And the old Great Lakes foundation group used to meet there when I was really little and mom would take me to some of the meetings

  48. Kellie on October 6, 2013 at 5:00 pm

    AMAZING!! Gave me goose bumps too! Signs are all around us, if we just let them in! Go Stacy & Jac!! 🙂

  49. Gene Kanary on October 6, 2013 at 4:54 pm

    When will you be at Congress? We had not planned on going this year because our daughter is showing at the Pennsylvania State 4-H Horse Show for the first time in Harrisburg this month. But we might make an exception if we knew you were going to be there.

    • Stacy on October 6, 2013 at 11:32 pm

      I will be hanging out around Congress on Sat and I will have Jac down there to introduce to everyone, not showing this year but hopefully next year!

  50. cindy on October 6, 2013 at 4:26 pm

    “Live like you were dying”. Whenever I hear that song, I see you and Roxy.

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