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Podcasting from a little cabin on a hill. This is the Westfall podcast. Stacy's goal is simple to teach you to understand why horses do what they do, as well as the action steps for creating clear, confident communication with your horses.
I'm Stacey Westfall, and I teach people how to understand, enjoy and successfully train their own horses in this first season of the podcast. I'm going to be discussing issues that frequently affect the riders thinking in today's podcast, I'm going to focus on discussing the idea of responsibility. But I'm gonna make this into a two part series. And in this first part, I want to talk about the stages that I actually see riders go through when they are learning with horses. And again, we're just going to stay in the riders mind. And the first stage that I tend to see riders jump into is the dreaming stage. And in the dreaming stage, this is where as riders, whether we picture ourselves at any age, there's this very I call it when I refer to it myself. I call it my my Disney moments. And so there is this very Disney type feeling to some of my thoughts around the streaming stage. And this is a stage that most people enter horses through and that could be cowboy movies. And you were dreaming about being a cowboy or that could be watching Spirit too many times on a loop and wanting to jump into that. Or for me, it was the Black Stallion books. But either way, there's this dreaming stage. And then at some point, people often transition into the learning stage. Unfortunately, a lot of times people transition from dreaming to learning after some kind of a setback and either which way, however they end up there.
This learning phase generally kicks off a lot of thoughts about how this functions. So I call it the nuts and bolts of the relationship stuff. And so it's the nuts and bolts of move the hip here. And this causes this to happen. And if we want to get a lead change, then the shoulder goes over here. It doesn't sound anything like a Disney movie. And the third and final stage that I see is this kind of balanced stage. So we've got dreaming, learning and then balancing. And then this balancing stage, what I see is someone who is daring to believe in both of the stages. You'll notice that when I was talking about the dreaming stage, I said, I picture myself and call it the Disney stage because I still want to live with one foot in that magical world, because that's what I enjoy. And I definitely want another piece of me to be in that nuts and bolts. How do things work? And these are mental constructs that I'm I'm giving you here. And I think that if you can get to this third stage where you can say learning more doesn't mean to have to give up dreaming and dreaming is not less than learning when you can get to this point where this balancing thing happens.
It's a beautiful place because it's going to affect the responsibility that everybody has. So typically, when you're in the dreaming stage, if I rewind to myself as a kid, I thought it just happen. I thought it just worked because I was actually without the words, giving all the responsibility to the horse. And what happens a lot of times with that is that people get stuck feeling because they keep giving the horse all the responsibility and then they wonder why the horse makes choices that are unsafe or undesirable over and over again. And that's a lot of times, because we're just hoping that the horse will come up with this idea that we want and they just don't think quite like spirited or the black stallion. And so in that dreaming stage, you can kind of get that little bit of a stuck feeling there now in the learning stage. There can actually get to the point where there's too much of the nuts and bolts. And this is where I think a lot of times when people leave the horse industry, either they leave because they were in the dreaming stage and then they got hurt and that ended the dream and they didn't move to learning. Or you get people that are in the learning stage. And I know I personally went through in the middle of this learning stage where and that's why I say nuts and bolts.
Now, it got so nuts and bolts specific that I didn't believe there was any magic left anymore. This little teeny, tiny, itty bitty corner of me did believe that there was still that magic to the point where I was ready to, like, quit becoming a professional horse trainer and try to figure out how I could get back to that that magic I was feeling. But long story short, it was this nuts and bolts of the learning phase that was kind of getting me down because it was so. So structured more like machinery, which is also why sometimes I'll say that trainers will make horses be robotic, because that was my view of how this nuts and bolts and robotic system was working. And thankfully, I found my way through a whole series of events to discovering this more balanced phase, which is where someone can actually believe in both dreaming and in learning. And the beauty of that is that if you're doing both, it's really difficult for you to criticize somebody who's in either one of the stages. So I do not criticize people who are dreaming and I do not criticize people who are learning. And I would love if they could join me and be doing both because it's such a beautiful thing. And when I think about how this affects people when they're with their horses in that very early stage, when I was in the dreaming stage, predominantly, my mom was trying to teach me some stuff.
So I was still a learner, but I was really dreaming. There were a lot of mistakes that I made because I just figured guest assumes that the horse would just magically fill in that that blank. So looking back, my recommendation is if you find yourself just hoping that things would get better, that's a sign that you might be spending a little bit too much time in the dreaming phase. And if when I moved to that next phase, the learning phase, if you find yourself getting a little bit bogged down, I'm wondering if there is really this magic that you thought you had experienced at one point. You did. I will tell you, you did. And you can experience that magic when you're around the horses sitting in a movie theater or reading a book like The Black Stallion. And then you can experience it when you go and you'll be around them. But you also will end up experiencing the fact that there is stuff you need to learn about how their herd dynamics work and what they look at has responsibility or what they look at as leadership. And so when you jump into that, don't get so lost in the weeds that you forget that you are still on the path of the dreamer also.
And then this is kind of an interesting thing, because a lot of times the people who become horse trainers are very often in that learner phase and probably learner only phase. A lot of times. And that can become a bit of a frustrating stage. That's what I experienced, was that as a trainer who was trying to accomplish these goals for the owners, what happened was I ended up feeling more like I just had to be able to. I had to cut out all the dreaming phase of it and I just had to make it very structured. And it lost some of that that that dreaming stuff. And I remember a long, long time ago when I was in college and I was dating my husband, Jesse, and I said to him, why would somebody start training horses if they don't even like them? Because coming from Maine and not having seen the industry, it was kind of like I jumped straight in and I was like, there appear to be a lot of professional horse trainers that don't like horses. And he said, well, they didn't start like that. And I think it's a brilliant observation because it's true. I'm sure at some point they started in some kind of the dreaming phase and then they moved into this phase that I'm calling the learner phase. But they actually moved more and more and more towards just this robotic type of a training.
And so there was a real pressure there as a professional trainer to move towards this. You know, this is just like a it's an assembly line. It's a mechanical type of a thing. And so if you're a professional with horses and you're experiencing any of that. Know that what you're experiencing is something that other people experience. But you don't have to accept it. You can actually write your own rules. So what I'd like you to do as an activity at the end of this podcast is just take a minute and reflect on the stages and see, are you in predominately one stage or the other? Are you spending more time in one of those or the other? If you're if you're doing both, if you're in that balancing stage? Are you switching back and forth fairly frequently or is there an area where you're stuck? Because I also see that you can get stuck in certain areas where your not moving forward because maybe you're spending a little bit too much time. Maybe you're really good with one thing with the horse, but not so good with the other because you're going to get stuck in that dream mode. Or maybe you're getting disheartened because you're stuck in that learning nuts and bolts phase and you're getting a little bit burned out on that.
So stop and reflect. And if you want to share or read what other people are experiencing, jump over to Stacey West Volcom and you will find the podcasts show notes for this episode. Thank you.
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Wow. This is eye opening. I thought I was in the balanced phase but I can see that it’s not always the case. My first memories as a child revolved around horses so much so that as soon as I was able to read I devoured anything and everything I could find about horses. I guess that was the Disney phase. Looking back I realize I have bounced back and forth quite a bit. I also see where many of my problems have originated from. Thanks for these podcasts; keep ’em coming!
So my problem is I am either completely in the dreamer stage, or completely the nuts and bolts stage, but I haven’t figured out how to be in both at the same time. The nuts and bolts can overwhelm me sometimes as I am trying to transition into reining (have an awesome HDI gelding), and I need to find the balance between the dreams and the nuts and bolts, but it seems my brain only does one at a time! lol Goals…
This really helped me to recognize some of the “missing pieces “. Thank you!
This episode is just bringing pieces together from my last comment! I think my “Riders Mind” issues are that I’ve been stuck too much in the “Disney” phase in the aspect of riding! ?
I’d say I’m planted in the learning stage. I guess that’s not such a bad thing, though! I’m 17, have either owned or leased a horse for the past 4 years, and still have plenty to learn! In the future I’ll always be willing to learn but right now learning is where I want to be and should be firmly planted in.
I began my dreaming stage about ten years ago when I watched Stacy perform “Live Like you were Dying” on Roxy. In my learning stage, I learned So Much. But I like the balance stage best. You are right on.
I seem to be stuck in the learning phase, because it seems like I am always riding at least one or two young horses each year. This will be the last year for a while that I have to start youngsters, which will be good, plus, as I’m cutting back on my herd (and trying to downsize my life), perhaps I can find more times where I can enjoy and dream a bit. At least I took a step out of my normal routine last summer and got to participate in a one day NATRC ride for a change of pace, which was great! I enjoy showing, so perhaps if I get to a place where I’m not as stressed and bogged down with farm duties, I can take some time to dream and shine!
I’m 53 and this made me reflect on my journey over the years. I realize now that horses don’t think like us. Their attachment is different. Certainly not like a Disney movie. lol So I guess I am past the dreamer stage. I was joking with a friend last week about our horses, We were discussing that if one of us died, our dogs would be sad and miss us, but our horses would be like, “Oh you are my new human and bringer of food…ok cool.” munch munch “The other human fed me lots of alfalfa, I will be need that from you as well please.”
Did all of us horse crazy girls read all of the Black Stallion books? I’m betting so 🙂
I am fortunate enough to have Fantastic parents who bought me a very kind pony when I was 4. I read Billy and Blaze books as well as The Black Stallion and anything else the library had to offer!
I had the good fortune to work for a Canadian Horseman (different from someone who knows how to ride) who owned a Polo Ranch, as an adult. He taught me so much about thorobreds from the ground, I can never thank him enough!
I feel like I rarely leave the learning stage… I board my Fine Gentlemen in a Quarter Horse barn (I have a thoroughbred and a Paso Fino), so I know about the thoroughbreds, and I look for people who have Gaited horse experience, on-line and books.
When I am on my Paso in a MartiGras parade, I feel like I have found BALANCE! It is a wonderful feeling, I highly recommend! Keep it hoof side down!
Thanks, I needed that.
These phases are all too real to me! It’s enlightening though they way you brought all that out.Thank you!i needed to hear it!im really enjoying these:)
This is so applicable to my career as a teacher (of non-horse things). My students come in with passion and dreams and they get bogged down with the learning. Balance is key! Thank you for sharing theee thoughts
I know that dreams come true, and hope dies last … I and my horse take part in every possible equestrian course under the supervision of qualified trainers … just like in life with people we learn something new every day, just like with horses – everyone the day brings us new experience …
Stacy,
Dreaming is VERY easy for anyone to do with horses and then once you set a goal with a horse and you can’t reach it quickly, it is very much a set back. You realize there is more work than you ever thought… and now the dream lost all of it’s sparkles and glitter. But what fun would it be to just be handed a dream? If you work hard and gain knowledge through out the experience, you will much more proud to share your dream with others.
“Good things come from hard work and perseverance!”
Ahhhhh I love the dreaming phase, its lots of fun. But Im a little OCD and I love to learn so I want to know everything and can get stunk trying to make something perfect and not move on and keep learning something else. I do go back and forth between the two phases. I still have so much to learn and thanks so much for the podcast as it is helping think about things in a way that I hope I will become more balanced. I can’t wait to see how much fun I can have then!
I am always in the dreaming stage but always step back to focus to learn more
I entered the horse world as an adult, but even as a forty year old woman I had dreams of what my partnership with horses would mean. However, as a specialist in educational psychology, I found myself quickly jumping into the learning phase. What was challenging for me was balancing all of the different philosophies and approaches to training. At one point it became so overwhelming that I shut down. I have since learned to find balance. I have identified realistic goals (dreams) of competing in western dressage. I have learned to filter the noice of different training techniques by using a blended approach. Every trainer/philosophy has a piece of wisdom or technique that is benifcial. I take those gems and apply them to my learning. With this balanced approach I find I am making steady progress in reaching my goals.
Stacy, I just loved this episode as I can tend to have swings towards either side of the learning and dreaming. Sometimes I get to dream oriented and don’t set realistic goals and sometimes I get to “nuts and bolts” focused and me and the horse quit having fun!! Your quote of, “Learning more doesn’t mean I have to give up dreaming, and dreaming is not less than learning. When you can get to a point where you reach this balance, it’s a beautiful thing,” during the podcast really helped me to gain a more balanced perspective on this subject. Thank you!
My husband says I am a professional student because I am always taking the next course or class on animals or something that interests me. The nuts and bolts of things. I am a logical thinker and look at the end result as where the dreaming begins somehow like that is when the magic happens. With most things finding a balance is hard and it takes someone bringing to your attention like you did here to make you take another look and see; do I really have that balance needed to move forward. Sometimes you feel like you are not learning enough to move forward. Thanks for a reminder.
I like how you put the three stages. I agree how some trainers make the horses too robotic. I feel you do need some structure in your training but you also need to be flexible. No two horses are the same and have individual needs. I love to mix things up with them to help keep them engaged and happy!
I have gotten to the third stage, but I do feel that I get stuck a little more in the second stage.
Hi Stacy – I’d like to think that I’ve mastered both stages 1 and 2. I have some big dreams, and I have put in a lot of time learning from trainers at clinics, working student, books, online, etc. But I lack the confidence to move into the zone of balance and believe that I am prepared to reach my dreams. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and outlining this for us so neatly!
After 40 some years of owning horses and trail riding, I still have the dreaming stage. The most important thing I have learned is you never stop learning. Sharing the horse experience with others keeps the dream alive.
It is great that we get to relate to you and your situations! Thanks for sharing some of the problems that you have had. I believe that I get caught up dreaming too much and then I have to take a couple days to really think about the goals and the steps needed to accomplish them. Example: I had just assumed that a colt that I have would be ok with trailer loading because he did good last time. I didn’t walk in with a step by step plan and ended with us both lost and confused. So the next couple days I set up step by step exercises to reach the end goal.
Thank you for saving me from that slope. I was starting to fell that way of the nuts and bolts. It kinda started becoming such a routine that boredom started to set in. No more!!
You have such a way of putting together the horse journey. I can see my life going down these two roads and the further along I get the more I see the two roads meeting. Yes, lots of work still to be done. Thank you again for putting this together.
The dreamer in me feels that I’m going to drive my sensitive and reactive horse away from me if I go to strong with the nuts and bolts. So I haven’t done anything with him in a year and a half, because I enjoy him coming up to me in pasture for scratches and I don’t want to loose that.
Yes!! That’s what I am feeling, no magic, just the robotics of learning!! So thinking of how to get the balance – add games? Groundwork? Patterns?
I appreciate your insights on the stages of learning and how we as riders can be in different stages with different skills. You gave me a new way to look at the skills I am working on and where I am at. I am fortunate to help my granddaughter with her new horse. She definitely is still in the dreaming phase but had the horse do some unexpected behaviors so she is now in the consciously incompetent phase in her riding She is somewhat afraid. I will be sharing some of your insights to encourage her and build up the confidence we want her to have with her horse.
I entered into the world of horses at a very strange time and it actually was through the movie, “Spirit: Stallion of the Cimarron” and it definitely put me in a dreaming stage for… years. After I started really understand what horses were like, my perception of horses changed gradually and more than likely for the better. Primarily because I can definitely see how people’s fantasy perception of horses could easily put them in a position to be hurt, I’m lucky that wasn’t the case for me.
On the flip side, in this past year, getting more and more into ground work and saddle work and the “nuts and bolts” of training and riding I have felt very stuck, nearly paralyzed with an unwillingness to continue to work with horses because I’m realizing just how much I don’t know, especially in the saddle. It’s still something I struggle with. Running into problems in the saddle, not knowing how to address the problem but also not really having the resources to learn more from professionals.
I’m putting it aside as best as I can and just trying to enjoy the horses I work with and ride but there’s always an instance when I’m riding where I realize I don’t know what I to do.
The “magic” concept has also really dwindled away to near nothingness for me. Horses are still something that makes the rest of the world and it’s/my problems fall away. I still love them, love being around them and what I love about them hasn’t changed but I’ve all but lost those fantasy notions I once had…as hard as it is for me to admit that.
Good podcast! I have to say that I was stuck in the dreamer phase, but realized I needed to shift and work more on the nuts and bolts, if I ever wanted my horse and I to move forward again and get back out on the trail. Guilty though…I still have a tendency to lean more to the dreamer…thanks for the awareness 🙂
Woohoo so I can still be a dreamer and be effective with my horses! I just need to balance the two states better. It makes sense not to let go of the dream otherwise you lose your goal you had in the first place but stay dreaming too long and you lose the ability to act, to learn. Thanks for the reminder that you can dream a dream but how to be effective at the same time.
Thanks for this! That was so helpful, I think I’m aware of these phases but had never put it all together. I definitely go between the two, but probably spend more time in the learning phase. You could definitely expand that conversation sometime if you’re lacking ideas. Which I doubt 🙂
I am really enjoying your podcasts! It is amazing to hear the process of horse ownership through a wonderful and different perspective. One of my greatest admirations of you is …you enjoy trail riding. Trail riding absolutely puts me in “Disney World”on every trail. Three rules when I trail ride, horse comes first (horse safe on trail while we enjoy the scenery) train the entire ride (learning stage) and balance is blending your disciple passion with continuous learning. Thanks for all of your advice!
It hit me all of a sudden that you’re good at teaching! It dawned on me while listening to these podcasts that there’s an element of mutual respect that evolves between horse and rider. I think it happens when we get to that balanced stage that you teach about. Or maybe that’s when you can realize there’s mutual respect between the two of you. Anyway, it’s there for sure when we learn to be balanced with our horse, I believe. It’s as if the horse accepts you as a member of the herd, and accepts that you’re the leader in that herd. Perhaps that’s exactly it. Both horse and rider become in sync! Then, the real rewarding part of horse riding happens, and you’re both having a good time being together. This is what balance means to me, at least. Great stuff in your podcasts! Thanks!
Excellent observation… thanks for sharing
I’m definitely more into the learning stage of horses. Sometimes I get too involved into the mechanics and technically of everything that I forget to have fun. I feel like I need to start dreaming a little more. Where I started out in the horse world didn’t give me the benefit of dreaming too much. It was either learn everything I could myself or I was going nowhere. I need to start dreaming of where I want to go with my horses and not just deal with the “facts” of things.
This is so great, as im right in a transition phase. I’ve been in the dreamer phase aided by a trusty steed who has enabled me to learn even with my Disney princess hat on. I’ve recently fallen twice and our relationship has really shifted. I’ve realized How much responsibility he has been carrying for us, how much more I need to get to know my horse to understand and read him. He’s made it so easy, but I’m ready to take the next step in sharing the responsibility in our relationship. But I’m keeping my dreaming hat on too, quite literally, have gotten my first cowgirl hat in celebration of this right of passage.
I plan on listening to this a few more times. A lot of interesting information. Balance…that’s what I want to strive for! I’m 62 and I definitely used to be more of a dreamer and although I loved horses I didn’t know how to be a good leader because unfortunately the people that I was around when starting out as a kid were the kind that were not leaders, but aggressors and their horses showed it. I always knew there had to be a better way, but I never found it until 18 years ago. The horse that caused me to find the way to leadership died in August after 18 years of loving and learning. He wasn’t horrible…He just knew that I didn’t know how to be a leader, so there was considerable frustration on both our parts. I don’t know who taught who more, but I will always be glad that he set me on this path. He also taught my granddaughters so much. They love your way of teaching! I need them to listen to these podcasts!
I feel like much learning with horses MUST by nature be mechanical, since horse trainers know how they learn, and every horse pretty much learns the same way.
That being said, I vary between the dreamer and learning phase. Maybe that IS the balanced phase—I’m not sure. I still have visions in my head that my daughter’s horse will come to know and “love” me, though I never dream I will be Stacy Westfall II, riding bridlelessly. I just dream of the simplest notions—that my daughter’s horse will at least recognize me and be perceptibly happy to see me. I also, strangely, dream of having a horse farm in Montana or Idaho. At 67 I never will, but it’s a fun dream that keeps my interest in horses going.
And, I learn new tricks of the trade each time I ride. Hopefully, my learning phase will never be over—I think it is a lifelong phase.
Might this be balance, then? Never being done learning…OR dreaming???
I don’t think there will ever be a day that I don’t sit in the saddle and feel magic. I guess I’ll always be a dreamer but also always learning.
In my experience, the dream phase is what got me hooked on horses. As I’ve been in the learning phase, I’ve revised my dreams and made my dreams more achievable after learning what I have, and what I continue to learn. I think this is part of finding the balance between the two. As a senior in college at Asbury, majoring in equine and focusing a lot on training, I do think that I have been in the learning stage more than dreaming, but there is still both. It is easy to get burned out in the learning phase, because in my experience, the more I learn and the more I know, the more I know that I don’t know. It can feel like a never ending cycle, but that does always leave room for improvement. I also believe that as I learn, my dreams do evolve to become more logical and realistic, but also as I learn, I’m gaining the tools to make my dream a reality and that is what keeps me (somewhat) balanced between the two phases, keeping that end goal or dream in mind, and always progressing towards it.
I a great planner and organizer…it’s the execution I have problems with. I have the trailer packed and reader (from the tack, to extra things I might need, the first aid kits for horses and humans, it’s all clean) I’ve got the farrier here regularly, the vet, the horses are groomed, they have great hay and supplements, I’ve researched the local trails, the costs, how to get bridle tags. But I NEVER GET OUT OF THE PASTURE. The fear, the limits I’ve set for myself all plays into the problems I’m having. I watch others at clinics, read books, watch videos, and listen to podcasts (wink wink). Im not a trainer, I don’t want to be a trainer. At times I’m in information overload. I need to K I S S. (keep it simple sweetie)
I have a coming 5 yr old that I have had since he was 5 months. My busy life has kept me from getting him trained. He has not had to do anything except go to our county fair and show halter. He has huge tantrums if I try and work with him, like just lunge, he starts with stomping his feet then to bolting, rearing, throws his head, trying to run me over. So I’m not getting anywhere with him!
I do switch back and forth between the 3 stages. I still dream (picture what I wan to be doing with my horse). Then I start my learning stage so I can teach the nuts and bolts to the horse and finally it all comes together in the balanced stage. It feels so good to reach this stage!!!
I believe this blog helps me to set true goals for myself and face the reality that the horse needs to also be taught. I was stuck into that phase at one time when I assumed that the horse “already knew “ what to do but that’s not the case. I found outbthevhard way as my horse pulled his tie chain backwards and he pulled the entire pole out of the ground and ran with it still attached into a wooded area then he finally stopped when the pole became jammed between two trees! Thanks so much for making me Re-Think and step back and not assume the horse “knows” what to do.
Stage 3 is what we are beginning to see glimpse of in our time with our boy.
I feel this podcast was my favorite. I feel i am stuck in the dreaming stage and the learning stage (so the balanced stage to say the least.) Some days i dream of where we could be and what we can be and other days i am stuck on training and what to do next, More or so i am more in the nuts and bolts stage. I have a coming 9 year old gelding who was started late and is a rather slow learner which sometimes can be very frustrating but also has given me a lot of patience. We butt heads with each other but we also have a strong bond and relationship with each other so the nuts and bolts actually sometimes become dreams because you work so hard to get where you want to be you start dreaming of what amazing things you can do!
I love dreaming of my next goal with my horse. I try to learn all I can to help her understand our next lesson together.
It is very difficult to swim upstream against some industry “standards” , some of the acceptable techniques that are popular are things I would never subject my horse to.
You nailed it!! As you know I’m a dreamer & have worried about becoming a nuts & bolts horse Mom. My horses are magical to me & I never want them to become a “burden”. ? However, I recognize if I want to truly be a good horse mom, I need to challenge myself to understand the nuts & bolts part too. You are helping me see the nuts & bolts can be magical too ?. So I see the magic in the nuts & bolts side now because of you. ?
I am so glad you shed light on trainers seemingly not liking horses. That is what shut me down when I tried to reach out for help before. They didn’t seem to like horses or people! ? So I could not justify to pay someone to insult my horse & I , my dreams … then leave feeling beaten up, drained , defeated & broke. ??
The babies & I thank you so much!!
As you also know it’s hard for me to type without my smiley & silly faces so insert as you see fit if they didn’t show up. Lol
I guess I’m in the nutty dreamer category willing to embrace some nuts & bolts! ??
Dear Stacy, I just finished listening to your third podcast, and it’s brilliant. I’m not a trainer, I’m a senior rider who like your podcast has just in the last year found myself in stage three, but still have lots of nuts and bolts to work on with my mare. I think one thing that was missing was acceptance of your abilities and of your horses. I’ve worked with a professional for a number of years and in the last couple of years have accepted 1. I’m older, my reflexes are slower, my back hurts way more than it ever did…so on and so forth.
I watched another pro work my horse last summer and realized she is way better trained than I ever imagined. Will I ever be able to draw out that level from her, or will my current trainer, the answer is NO, and I’m okay with that. Because I can dream that someday just maybe I will be able to draw that extra out,I can learn, because there is always so much to learn, but I’m balanced, and have never enjoyed my horse more in my life.
Thank you for your wonderful words of wisdom, I sat having my tea laughing and seeing myself!
Karen- Thank you for writing! What you are sharing about acceptance is so true. We ALL have limits, horse and people, and when we accept that idea we relax…and then something wonderful can often happen. We can get creative and find new ways to use the strengths we do have. The older I get the better I get at working things out…in my HEAD before I use my body.
So glad you are enjoying the process, some tea, and a laugh:)