“I will speak nothing negative, not even in truth, but will resolve to speak only good.”

The above quote came from a recent church meeting titled “The power of careful conversations.” The main idea was that your words should always be the following three things: TRUE, KIND, AND NECESSARY.

Now there’s a challenge! Which one will be the most difficult? Will it be the challenge of being truthful? Or maybe the challenge of being kind? Or necessary?

I think that if I start with the challenge of being necessary I might have the most success. Speaking only when it is necessary seems like it would slow the volume, and in turn make it easier to work out the other two.

Maybe that is why I like riding horse so much. It is an unspoken understanding and doesn’t involve the need to control the tongue as much.

“The tongue of the wise commends knowledge, but the mouths of fools pour out folly.” Proverbs 15:2


  1. Kelly Bledsoe on November 1, 2011 at 8:55 am

    That’s a hard one Stacey but thanks for the challenge and God Bless!!

  2. Darwin Justice on November 1, 2011 at 8:43 am

    Stacy, you’re truly a rare person. Someone in the spotlight as much as you are, yet you remain humble, you do an awesome job at everything you attempt, and yet you love the Lord. Such a breath of fresh air….. You’re a rose amongst thorns. 🙂

    I’ll also pass on my verse of scripture that intertwines with what you’ve talked about here:

    Micah 6:8 – He has showed you, O man, what is good. And what does the LORD require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God.

    Thanks for all you do Stacy

  3. Norma on October 31, 2011 at 6:49 am

    Stacy, I am presently taking a Bible course called,” The Power of a Woman’s Words.” I never realized how powerful they are and how many times they are quoted in the Bible. It has made me stop and think more and I love your TRUE, KIND AND NECESSARY. We need to use these every time we speak, it would eliminate a lot of gossip.

  4. Janet on October 30, 2011 at 7:43 pm

    I too like the unspoken word but I do have to watch my tongue when it comes to the truth, I’m sometimes honest, and I forget that there are people that are afraid of the truth and become hurt by my words. I know as soon as I open my mouth that I should hold back on the constuctive critizim, but sometimes my motor skills are faster then my stopping skills. In the past two years of finding my faith again and being with my heard watching and learning the meaning of body language, and silent communication, it is becoming easier to see the good in others and by pass that negitive energy that they are not aware that they are projecting. I am now understanding why God has given us the horse, it is his way of teaching us the truth of the unspoken word.

  5. Brenda Anderson on October 30, 2011 at 7:31 pm

    I really enjoyed reading this blog post, Stacy. Thank you.

  6. Akka Voskuil on October 30, 2011 at 7:28 pm

    My violin teacher used to tell me this when I was about 8 or 9 years old…

  7. Deana Ford on October 30, 2011 at 7:27 pm

    There is much wisdom here. I really like the point of neccessity. Some times we think it is “ok” to say harsh things because it is the truth. However the damage it can cause is not worth the momentary satisfaction it brings. Thank you for sharing!

  8. Faith on October 30, 2011 at 7:27 pm

    Thank you for posting this – it’s a huge encouragement to me and it’s so wonderful to know that your trying to honor the Lord in your daily life! Your a wonderful example to women of all ages.

  9. Maggy on October 30, 2011 at 7:12 pm

    Sometime the truth has to be told, even if it is negativity, because to deny it could cause others suffering.

  10. Emmie on October 30, 2011 at 1:58 pm

    I love the quote!! I have been trying to work on my tongue lately too. I’ve been reading James.. which has a ton of stuff about the tongue in there. It’s so hard sometimes to watch my words. lol! …True, kind, and necessary gives me a whole heap to think about. Thanks Stac!

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