Episode 131- Painful thoughts that hold us back with our horses


The way we think about things created a feeling that shows up in our body and our horses are aware of it. This is why it is so important to take a look at your thinking. One place to start is by separating the facts from the story.
Then look at each phrase of your story and identify the emotion you feel.
“One of our own horses is having a hard time recently” (sad/guilty)
“For some reason she wants to spook at everything” (powerless)
She just reverts all back and I have to start all over again (inadequate)
Tonight was a very hard night (despair)
Sometimes when you look at your story from a different perspective you can make new decisions on how you want to proceed. Thoughts will occur but you have the power to decide what to do with them.

Links mentioned in podcast:

Laura Graves: The Making of Diddy. The story Stacy was reading from:


  1. CHRISTINE CHILDRESS on May 19, 2021 at 10:57 am

    Disregard the supplement question – I listened again and caught the name – THANKS!!

  2. Christine E on May 19, 2021 at 10:45 am

    Stacy, thank you for taking the time to answer this listener’s question! I get where she is at – I *so* get it. I’ve been there myself back and forth multiple times over the years of owning my current gelding – 19 years and counting at this point, and he *still* throws me for loops. Time and time again I find myself doubting my own worth and abilities as a horsewoman and beating myself up over it until I was black, blue, and even broken at times. Sometimes even doubting my own worth completely! All this to say, I also wholeheartedly, hands-in-the-air, agree with everything you said in your reply to her.

    The truth is, we are always learning. When we know better, we do better. But hard as it may be, we aren’t born full of all the “smarts” we’ll ever need at birth. We learn by doing, and we learn a lot especially by making mistakes, or to re-frame that, by trying something one way and realizing it doesn’t work given the current situation/circumstance. Reframing how we look at the facts is VITAL, and something I need to remind myself of constantly (some of us are just wired more that way than others – like the horses who are naturally/by birth more “anxious”). If I try something and it doesn’t work, I need to ask myself why, and if I don’t know why, then perhaps I can just start with the facts: I did X, and X happened, but I desire X to happen instead, so I can now try Y and Z and see if I get a different result, etc… and the best fact of all – each thing I try will teach me something and help me grow and become an even more capable horsewoman than I presently am!

    Thank you, Stacy, and thank you to the brave listener for asking her question – it’s a lesson we’re likely all in need of, especially if we work around horses!

    Hugs and blessings to you all,

    • Stacy Westfall on June 23, 2021 at 6:54 am

      Thank you so much for leaving this comment. It’s so meaningful that your comment even has other listener comments😊
      This is the stuff that makes podcasting worth it!
      So glad to be part of your journey😊

  3. CHRIS CHILDRESS on May 19, 2021 at 10:39 am

    LOVE your podcasts!!! Can you share the name of the supplement used on Presto please

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