How much is one good tip worth? Why was Stacy running her fingers through Roxy's mane?

can you train your emotions?Can you make yourself cry right now?


Right now.

OK, now wipe your eyes and keep reading. What? You didn’t really cry? Why not?

What if I told you that if you turned your camera on right now and cried you would instantly win $1,000,000.00? Would you be able to cry for that?

The above conversation is one of two things that I remember the most from my first interaction with Barbra Schulte. She was a guest speaker at the University of Findlay when I was a student and she was teaching us about our emotions. Her point when she asked us about crying was to get us thinking about what it would take to call up an emotion. You have probably already figured out that if you wanted to cry you would first remember something that made you cry in the past. Then you could choose to harness that emotion. Could you do that with other emotions?

I said there were two things I remembered about Barbra’s talk. One was the example of ‘can you cry’ and the other was a tip she gave: train your body to respond in a certain way. The example she gave was that people often get nervous when they head into the show pen. What if you could touch your thumb and your middle finger together and feel relaxed? She suggested teaching our bodies during times of no stress (when you’re going to sleep, etc) that touching the fingers together was associated with relaxation, deep breathing, and clear thoughts.

I used that tip for many years when I was showing…and I still use it at times today. In reality I use versions of the tip every single time I show. Do you remember watching the ‘Live Like You Were Dyin’ video? Remember how I was running my fingers through Roxy’s mane? Yep, I was using that tip even then.

If you are interested in learning more about this way of thinking, join me tonight on the web where I will be interviewing Barbra on the topic of Overcoming Fear. It is a live event where you can type in questions in real time for us to answer. Here is the link to the event landing page: Feel free to click on it now to get comfortable with how easy it is to join in. Who knows…maybe you will get one tip that will make a huge difference for you.

Tonight. 9:00 PM Eastern time, 8:00 PM Central, 7:00 PM Mountain, 6:00 PM Pacific


  1. Laurie Baldwin on April 22, 2015 at 12:03 pm

    I can’t open the link, is it only available live tonight?

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  3. coopercreekcollection on April 22, 2015 at 3:52 am

    Will there be a way to access this seminar afterwards? Thanks. jw

  4. Sharon Hill on April 21, 2015 at 11:52 pm

    Speaking of emotions, and interesting discussion in a facebook group came up with this question. Can a horse enjoy the work we ask them to do? Or even like the jobs we give them? She used a dressage horse as an example, commenting that his eyes looked very strained. I said he was probably concentrating on his rider so that isn’t an indication on his emotion.

    Many people commented with out a doubt their horse loved what they did. A few thought people were anthropomorphizing the horse’s trained and conditioned responses.

    Personally I think it is a little of both. I do believe a horse can like what they do. They may not have the range of emotions like humans but they do have emotions thus likes and dislikes. People may not like their jobs but still do it because they need the money…isn’t that the same as conditioned response?

    What do you think?

  5. Barbara on April 21, 2015 at 7:40 pm

    Unbelievable, you are amazing! Love all you do?

  6. Denise Ellis Rogers on April 21, 2015 at 7:26 pm

    I will most definitely be watching. And BTW..if I wanted to cry to win money..your video riding Roxy would do it for me. It always does.

  7. Jenny Cook on April 21, 2015 at 5:59 pm

    Harnessing emotions is a gift.
    A priceless gift.
    Thanks for sharing such valuable wisdom.

  8. jenny cook on April 21, 2015 at 5:53 pm


    Happy Connecting. Sent from my Sprint Samsung Galaxy S® 5

  9. Pam Upgren on April 21, 2015 at 5:03 pm

    I would really live to see this but have a prior commitment. Any chance of a link to a recording??

  10. Amy M on April 21, 2015 at 2:57 pm

    Oh, this could be huge for me, but I’m not sure if I’ll be back from the barn by then. Is this going to be recorded or transcripted so I can watch again another time?

  11. bobbiejo81 on April 21, 2015 at 2:23 pm

    Yay!! I’ve got my alarm set so that I don’t miss it!! Don’t know that I’ll chime in but will be completely satisfied just stalking; )

  12. Loretta Fern King on April 21, 2015 at 1:12 pm

    I’ll be on tonight for sure !!!!!

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