An unusual birthday

It has been an unusual birthday so far. Up most of the night with a crazy head cold, my son told me that the cold medicine didn’t work when he had the cold last week. I told him it always has. Last night a 2 A.M. I agreed with him even though I was the only one awake.

I woke to the news from my husband that I was really 40 years old.  Due to a combination of 1) lack of sleep 2) cold medicine 3) my famously poor math skills I hesitated before contradicting him. I was born in 1974……I was pretty sure that I had one more year before ‘the big one’.

But, of course, he proved himself correct again by explaining that I am currently entering my 40th year of life on earth beginning today.  This makes me wonder if homeschooling the boys last year planted this East Asian thought in my husbands head as they consider a baby to be one at birth…..too much thinking for my current head cold.

It hasn’t been all bad though. Yes, I have slept away a good part of the day. However, during that time the house was mysteriously (and silently) cleaned. Presents have appeared on the table. Birthday wishes are appearing on Facebook and my phone. I have been waited on whenever I make an appearance. My husband has saddled my horse for me because I am determined to ride on this beautiful day.

I have been able to breath for the last four hours without cold medicine, yeah!….which, hopefully is a sign that I will be able to taste food again, as a friend dropped off this cake. I heard it is the closest recipe she could find to the one my great grandmother baked; chocolate cake with a coconut filling.

Yep, it has been an unusual day, but still a good one!chocolate coconut birthday cake by Julie


  1. Debbie Cormier on September 28, 2013 at 7:31 am

    Happybelated birthday – don’t worry – you’re still young!

  2. Malory on September 27, 2013 at 8:18 pm

    Happy Birthday! =)

  3. Cheryl Daniel Bailey on September 27, 2013 at 2:51 pm

    Happy Birthday Stacy!!! If that isn’t the cake recipe I bet that I have the right one. I have been making it for over 40 years and it is the one that my youngest sister used to always request for her birthday. It had cream cheese,coconut & chocolate chips in the middle and coffee in the chocolate cake batter. So if you think mine might be the right one send me an e-mail or a note to Cheryl Bailey, I am one of your fans and loved when you and the beautiful late Roxy were on Ellen.

    • Stacy on October 1, 2013 at 9:01 pm

      You know what….if you want to share it here or email it to me it would be fun to compare them. My son’s birthday is coming up soon…

  4. Thomas C. Schmidt on September 27, 2013 at 11:57 am

    Dear Stacy,

    Thank you for forwarding me your reflections on your 39-40 (in court right now) birthday.

    Happy Birthday.

    I am inviting you to participate in PeaceHorse this coming summer in Montana.

    I need innovative instructors who have different effective kind training techniques and philosophies to share with 50 Americans, 50 foreigners, and 10 M0ntanans.

    The budget is $1.1 million but that has to cover a lot of sins (10 weeks of 110 student riders.).

    What I ask that you do is think about what you could do a s a program for a day or several days that would be earthy shaking for these students. The usual plan is to have the students (11 at a time) work with each instructor in a different discipline for several days in a row so that the students don’t just hear but do.

    You can go to and you can look at my Facebook world (Thomas C. Schmidt) to see who I am.

    I have a good sense of who you are by your YouTube posts. What I require is competence and excellence in your horsemanship discipline, and ability to communicate what you know, principles that are transferable more than techniques or gimmicks, and kindness and love and caring to make the world better one step at a time.

    With respect and admiration, sincerely,

    Thomas C. Schmidt

    Director of PeaceHorse

    406-261-1794 cp


  5. Jody Brittain on September 27, 2013 at 11:22 am

    Sorry you are sick on your birthday. Hope you get to feeling better, and that cake looks so yummy!

  6. Rosa on September 27, 2013 at 6:27 am

    Happy Birthday Stacy!!!! Wish you all the best on this earth and…..beeing 40 is great! Now it really starts 😉 sending much love, sunshine and hugs, Rosa

  7. Phyllis Whittemore on September 27, 2013 at 2:49 am

    ..Happy Birthday Stacy, your still young honey, that cake looks delicious!!.. get well soon

  8. Hot Rod Cowgirl on September 27, 2013 at 2:20 am

    Happy Birthday Stacy! Get well fast and you are still young:)

  9. deltamyhome on September 27, 2013 at 1:26 am

    Happy Birthday Stacy

  10. Andrea M on September 26, 2013 at 11:08 pm

    Happy Birthday Stacy!! you really inspire me to do better with my own horse!! God Bless!!

  11. Sue Chapman on September 26, 2013 at 11:04 pm

    Am inspiring woman and it is an honor to wish you a Happy Birthday!! Take care of your cold and hope it does not ruin your celebration!!

  12. Ruth Messare on September 26, 2013 at 10:49 pm

    Happy Birthday Stacey ! Love, prayers, and great blessings !

  13. Alice Corbett on September 26, 2013 at 10:18 pm

    Birthday Blessings!

  14. Dolores Williams on September 26, 2013 at 10:17 pm

    Happy Birthday and get well fast!

  15. Shirley on September 26, 2013 at 10:14 pm

    I hope you got your ride in and had a happy day despite being sick. That cake would cheer me up! Are you going to share the recipe if you can get it?

  16. Chris on September 26, 2013 at 9:08 pm

    Happy Birthday Stacy the 40’s are good years trust me I am 61 going on 62 and just got another Horse yesterday life is good.

  17. nikki on September 26, 2013 at 8:34 pm

    Hapoy birthday to you and may all you dream of come true!

  18. Noni Bodkin on September 26, 2013 at 8:22 pm

    Happy Birthday Stacy! I hope your cold goes away and you are 100% better soon! And, that you got to take that ride in some beautiful Ohio weather. Maybe this would help you feel better too–If you were born in 1974, you aren’t 40, you’re 39 ;))
    Could Jesse be playing a joke?
    Best wishes!

  19. Ida Marie Panella Carlough on September 26, 2013 at 7:40 pm

    Happy Birthday Stacy! Have a blessed day and year.

  20. Connie Spinelli on September 26, 2013 at 7:31 pm

    Happy Birthday, Stacy!!!!
    ‘Hope you had a good ride…… and that your cold passes quickly!

  21. Terry Thomas on September 26, 2013 at 7:21 pm

    ░H░A░P░P░Y░ ░B░I░R░T░H░D░A░Y STACY!!

  22. Samantha Anderson on September 26, 2013 at 6:59 pm

    My birthday is on the 28th, and I am looking forward to the trail ride we have planned! So happy birthday fellow Libra!!
    Hope you feel better soon!

  23. Tammie Arneson on September 26, 2013 at 6:28 pm

    Happy Bday Stacy! Have a great ride 🙂

  24. deltamyhome on September 26, 2013 at 6:11 pm

    Happy Birthday Stacy!

  25. Laurene on September 26, 2013 at 5:47 pm

    Happy birthday to you!!! Have a blessed 40th year!

  26. irisvillagegirL on September 26, 2013 at 5:46 pm

    Happy Birthday Stacy and feel better soon!,,,

  27. Jean Lynch on September 26, 2013 at 5:41 pm

    Hope even with the cold u did have a good birthday. It’s good to have family and friends.

  28. JUDY KROPLESKY on September 26, 2013 at 5:27 pm


  29. Sonja Vinson on September 26, 2013 at 5:24 pm

    Happy Birthday Stacy.Hope you have a good rest of the day.

  30. susan talmge and chloe on September 26, 2013 at 5:22 pm

    If Jesse hasn’t mentioned my son Aj shares this great day, he is 29 and he as well close to a BIG one! reading the previous comment I am glad Im not the only one awaiting your arrival back into competition. Chloe and I are waiting as patient as a Saddle bred can!
    Susan Talmage

  31. debby on September 26, 2013 at 5:18 pm

    Nobody should be sick with a head cold on their birthday….hope you feel better soon. Happy Birthday!

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  33. azure46 on September 26, 2013 at 5:07 pm

    Happy Birthday, Stacy. Hope you’re feeling better by now. Yes, you are 39 according to my calculations. But not to worry, 40 is no big deal. (I’m 67) The cake looks yummy. Hope your friend will share her recipe.

  34. Jenny Martin on September 26, 2013 at 5:00 pm

    Happy Birthday, Stacy! Hope you cold goes away soon. That’s the pits for your birthday! Hey, are you about ready to train another wonderful freestyle horse??? You are sorely missed in the show ring, (except by your competitors, I guess!) You are such an inspiration!

  35. June McLaughlin on September 26, 2013 at 4:53 pm

    Happy Birthday!!! Looks to me like you just turned 39. No worries, 40 isn’t a big deal either. Hope you start feeling better quickly. The cake sounds yummy. Maybe you could share your friend’s recipe later.

  36. Carol Stirrat on September 26, 2013 at 4:49 pm

    Happy birthday, Stacy. I hope you feel better soon. Somehow a cold at this time of year is worse than a winter cold!

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