Strategy: Own, rather than complain, about how people treat you.
Simple yet complex.
- We teach people how to treat us.
- People teach us how to treat them.
- We teach horses how to treat us. (if we are doing the training)
- Horses teach people how to treat them. (if we are unaware)
This law is one of the more interesting ones to observe with horses. There are many time when I am coaching people that it becomes obvious that the horse has arranged the situation to fit their will. Some examples include:
a horse that won’t lope…..threatens to buck if bumped with legs
a horse that flips its head….threatening to rear because it scares the rider and causes a release
a horse that considers trailer loading with grain….but throws a fit if pressure is applied
a horse that spooks….but only with riders that are intimidated
Growing up I taught lessons at a guest resort. The guests would come to Maine from all over the world and one thing they could do was ride horses. I was the instructor. The horses were the teachers…
We had one horse, Tate, that was very smart. After a couple of years there he began to go bad. His version of ‘going bad’ was that he would not move. I could get on and with the mere thought of going could easily trot or lope. A guest would get on and he wouldn’t move. Heck, after a few years of careful study on Tate’s part he truly wouldn’t move for them even if I did get them to finally give him one good kick. He had simply learned they didn’t mean it. Nothing I could do would convince him….because he was right-they didn’t mean it!
He had figured out how to treat people to get rid of them. Not much of a ride if the horse doesn’t move. Really shortens the ride. Smart horse. How are you doing at teaching people how to treat you?